In today’s society, parents seem to be grouped into two groups: helicopter parents and parents who are not. And if parents are involved with their children’s lives, know what they are doing, are aware of comings and goings and ask questions, they are labeled as helicopter parents. This should NOT be the case. This is NOT fair. It is a parent’s right and responsibility to know what their children are doing and to guide their children through life until they feel they can let them go into the world to be productive citizens.
An excerpt from A Mother’s Reckoning: Living the Life in the Aftermath of Tragedy by Sue Klebold (mother of Dylan Klebold, one of the boys responsible for the massacre at Columbine High School in Colorado) says, “Not knowing about Eric’s website [depicting Nazi symbols and inciting violence, among other things] is a huge regret, and it emphasizes how important it is for parents to share information with one another, though the conversation might be uncomfortable. It’s understandable Judy didn’t come to me about the website: when the two boys were arrested, she believed the police had finally taken action. She had no idea Eric and Dylan had been arrested for a theft that had nothing to do with Eric’s threatening behavior–just as I had no idea Eric had threatened Brooks or anyone at all until the afternoon of the tragedy, when Judy Brown was standing in my driveway and fifteen people were lying dead in the school, countless others injured and traumatized (Copyright 2016 Crown Publishers New York, page 202).
We can play the “what if” game all day long about countless tragedies, and we will never know the answer. But let us at BeSavvyParents implore parents, to use Ms. Klebold’s words, “to share information with one another, though the conversation might be uncomfortable.” We parents are all in this together–children don’t come with instruction manuals! There should be a silent oath among us that we shall listen to each other and appreciate each other, for we are all on the same side and are working for the same common goal: to raise happy, well-adjusted, healthy kids.